Has Relational Work Been Finally Validated by Mainstream Psychology?

“Mainstream Western psychological theories tend to depict human development as a trajectory from dependence to independence. In these models, the “job” of parenting is to bring the helpless, dependent baby into a state of autonomous and independent adulthood. In contrast, relational-cultural theory (RCT) is built on the premise that, throughout the lifespan, human beings grow through and toward co...
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How Experience with LSD Prepared Me for the Alternate Reality of Dementia

Being with someone who has dementia is a lot like being with someone on LSD; they are in a somewhat different reality. It seems to work best to get excited for them each “new” realization, when they tell you again what they just said 20 minutes ago. It's certainly further developing my own capacities for patience. The invitation appears to be to just roll with being 100% in the present mome...
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Summer Fades

The sunflowers’ dark faces, shining with gold still greet me on my walks Persevering and bright, through unforgiving sun and rain Loving every minute of their joyful lives holding court over cottontails and tiny birds perched in their branches. The air turns cool, and now, dead heads outnumber the blossoms feeding the hungry birds, it’s what they have to offer now, during the end days,...
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I AM DONE (An Ode to Quitting)

I AM DONE (An Ode to Quitting) I am done with this I’m finished, I’m through. I have had enough I’m moving on. I am ending this relationship, friendship, acquaintance. I quit this club, I retract my pledge I am leaving this place vacating this premises dropping off the key Forgetting this town. I’m dumping my belongings I don’t need them, I am done. I am quitting this platform ...
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Being in the Unknown with Family

Our construction plans screech to a halt, everything changing under our feet like the desert sand. Stop, drop, sit, wait, watch. More going on. We knew we had to get out here to fully understand the situation and what the need may be. Living close to family, living on family land, and sharing a house and every meal with family are all different things. We were prepared there would be hard work. Mo...
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Ten Thousand Feet Up

Ten thousand feet up Walking along an alpine stream warm to touch. Heaviness like a blanket, no relief the further I walk. Trees weep with open sores My spirits sink. Witnessing the suffering of the forest of spruce, lodgepole pines, The sorrow of an entire ecosystem failing. Bright growth along the stream, life would go on. The warming days threaten fish but not all the flowers....
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Give Me A Farmer

Give me a farmer, who knows the labor of love it takes to grow nourishment Over a silk-pillowed kirtan-chanting spiritual seeker; Give me someone who plants her feet in the dirt to feel the power of the earth, held by cosmic energies above, beaming rays of glorious light into her soul Over a sweat shop yoga room with tight booties working on a better self image; Give me a tender of animals...
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Being with Changing Times

Chaos happens. It feels like we're amidst uncertain times. How do we ride this wave of change? Is the Sonoma County blaze, which ravaged our cities and countryside last month, leaving so much disaster in its wake, a freak accident? Or is it the herald of big changes underfoot, as unusual climactic conditions portend things to come? How do we be with all the not knowing? How do we be with disaster...
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Beginning the New Year with Listening

Many New Year Blessings!! I admit it's been a little challenging to write this, at a time of a lot of change in my own life. I felt being honest here was more in integrity than just saying "Happy Holidays" and moving on. The holidays didn't go at the tempo I prefer. Instead, I found myself working on my school assignments right through the holidays, which goes against every fiber of my being...
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Feeling Raw & Keeping Afloat

We all have different feelings coming up at this really pivotal moment in our nation's history. The full range of feelings are being expressed over Facebook and in the news. There are those who are elated, and those who are crushed. I know many more who are struggling with what just happened, and the former don't need support at the moment. So for those who are struggling, I want to take a few min...
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