Soul work

Has Relational Work Been Finally Validated by Mainstream Psychology?

“Mainstream Western psychological theories tend to depict human development as a trajectory from dependence to independence. In these models, the “job” of parenting is to bring the helpless, dependent baby into a state of autonomous and independent adulthood. In contrast, relational-cultural theory (RCT) is built on the premise that, throughout the lifespan, human beings grow through and toward co...
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How Experience with LSD Prepared Me for the Alternate Reality of Dementia

Being with someone who has dementia is a lot like being with someone on LSD; they are in a somewhat different reality. It seems to work best to get excited for them each “new” realization, when they tell you again what they just said 20 minutes ago. It's certainly further developing my own capacities for patience. The invitation appears to be to just roll with being 100% in the present mome...
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I AM DONE (An Ode to Quitting)

I AM DONE (An Ode to Quitting) I am done with this I’m finished, I’m through. I have had enough I’m moving on. I am ending this relationship, friendship, acquaintance. I quit this club, I retract my pledge I am leaving this place vacating this premises dropping off the key Forgetting this town. I’m dumping my belongings I don’t need them, I am done. I am quitting this platform ...
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Being in the Unknown with Family

Our construction plans screech to a halt, everything changing under our feet like the desert sand. Stop, drop, sit, wait, watch. More going on. We knew we had to get out here to fully understand the situation and what the need may be. Living close to family, living on family land, and sharing a house and every meal with family are all different things. We were prepared there would be hard work. Mo...
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Ten Thousand Feet Up

Ten thousand feet up Walking along an alpine stream warm to touch. Heaviness like a blanket, no relief the further I walk. Trees weep with open sores My spirits sink. Witnessing the suffering of the forest of spruce, lodgepole pines, The sorrow of an entire ecosystem failing. Bright growth along the stream, life would go on. The warming days threaten fish but not all the flowers....
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Give Me A Farmer

Give me a farmer, who knows the labor of love it takes to grow nourishment Over a silk-pillowed kirtan-chanting spiritual seeker; Give me someone who plants her feet in the dirt to feel the power of the earth, held by cosmic energies above, beaming rays of glorious light into her soul Over a sweat shop yoga room with tight booties working on a better self image; Give me a tender of animals...
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Being with Changing Times

Chaos happens. It feels like we're amidst uncertain times. How do we ride this wave of change? Is the Sonoma County blaze, which ravaged our cities and countryside last month, leaving so much disaster in its wake, a freak accident? Or is it the herald of big changes underfoot, as unusual climactic conditions portend things to come? How do we be with all the not knowing? How do we be with disaster...
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Feeling Raw & Keeping Afloat

We all have different feelings coming up at this really pivotal moment in our nation's history. The full range of feelings are being expressed over Facebook and in the news. There are those who are elated, and those who are crushed. I know many more who are struggling with what just happened, and the former don't need support at the moment. So for those who are struggling, I want to take a few min...
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Facing Grief

Originally published in the Sonoma Gazette, September 2016. My heart goes out to all those affected by recent tragedies, notably the recent car accidents taking lives. It is the ultimate heart break when one of our loved ones dies. How can we be with all this sorrow? In our culture, grieving is challenging, as the tendency is to go unconscious, numb, or stuff it down and move forward. The invita...
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Feeling from the Depths of Our Hearts

Originally published in the Sonoma Gazette, August 2016. My heart goes out to all those suffering from tragedy right now. Its a lot to process and reactions are strong, including anger and hate. What can we do to truly help change the situation we all now face? Its closer than you might think. Violence is often a result from internalized pain, when pain and suffering can’t be acknowledged. Ang...
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