Has Relational Work Been Finally Validated by Mainstream Psychology?

Mainstream Western psychological theories tend to depict human development as a trajectory from dependence to independence. In these models, the “job” of parenting is to bring the helpless, dependent baby into a state of autonomous and independent adulthood. In contrast, relational-cultural theory (RCT) is built on the premise that, throughout the lifespan, human beings grow… Continue reading Has Relational Work Been Finally Validated by Mainstream Psychology?

LSD and the Alternate Reality of Dementia

Being with someone who has dementia is a lot like being with someone on LSD; they are in a somewhat different reality. It seems to work best to get excited for them each “new” realization, when they tell you again what they just said 20 minutes ago. It’s certainly further developing my own capacities for… Continue reading LSD and the Alternate Reality of Dementia

I AM DONE (An Ode to Quitting)

I am done with thisI’m finished, I’m through.I have had enoughI’m moving on.I am ending this relationship,friendship,acquaintance.I quit this club, I retract my pledgeI am leaving this placevacating this premisesdropping off the keyForgetting this town.I’m dumping my belongingsI don’t need them,I am done. I am quitting this platformdeleting my accountwithdrawing my depositstearing up contractsignoring the… Continue reading I AM DONE (An Ode to Quitting)

Being in the Unknown with Family

Our construction plans screech to a halt, everything changing under our feet like the desert sand. Stop, drop, sit, wait, watch. More going on. We knew we had to get out here to fully understand the situation and what the need may be. Living close to family, living on family land, and sharing a house… Continue reading Being in the Unknown with Family

Give Me A Farmer

Give me a farmer, who knows the labor of love it takes to grow nourishment Over a silk-pillowed kirtan-chanting spiritual seeker; Give me someone who plants her feet in the dirt to feel the power of the earth, held by cosmic energies above, beaming rays of glorious light into her soul Over a sweat shop… Continue reading Give Me A Farmer

Being with Changing Times

Chaos happens. It feels like we’re amidst uncertain times. How do we ride this wave of change? Is the Sonoma County blaze, which ravaged our cities and countryside last month, leaving so much disaster in its wake, a freak accident? Or is it the herald of big changes underfoot, as unusual climactic conditions portend things to… Continue reading Being with Changing Times

Feeling Raw & Keeping Afloat

We all have different feelings coming up at this really pivotal moment in our nation’s history. The full range of feelings are being expressed over Facebook and in the news. There are those who are elated, and those who are crushed. I know many more who are struggling with what just happened, and the former… Continue reading Feeling Raw & Keeping Afloat

Facing Grief

Originally published in the Sonoma Gazette, September 2016. My heart goes out to all those affected by recent tragedies, notably the recent car accidents taking lives. It is the ultimate heart break when one of our loved ones dies. How can we be with all this sorrow? In our culture, grieving is challenging, as the… Continue reading Facing Grief

Feeling from the Depths of Our Hearts

Originally published in the Sonoma Gazette, August 2016. My heart goes out to all those suffering from tragedy right now. Its a lot to process and reactions are strong, including anger and hate. What can we do to truly help change the situation we all now face? Its closer than you might think. Violence is often a result… Continue reading Feeling from the Depths of Our Hearts